Buck Black – BUCK BLACK THERAPY

Frequently Asked Questions for Counseling

What is therapy all about? Therapy is about working though the problems you may be having. We all have problems and many of us need therapy to deal with them. However, the majority of people never have enough courage to talk with a therapist to address the problem! There are many techniques that can easily be taught to help one cope with or even overcome depression, anxiety, anger, and sex and relationship concerns. I don't want to or am unable to come see a counselor, can you help me? Yes! Online therapy is very helpful for most people. Are you…

Anger that Comes from Depression

People often have anger that stems from depression—especially men. Signs of depression Difficulty concentrating, remembering details, and making decisionsFatigue and decreased energyFeelings of guilt, worthlessness, and/or helplessnessFeelings of hopelessness and/or pessimismInsomnia, early-morning wakefulness, or excessive sleepingIrritability, restlessnessLoss of interest in activities or hobbies once pleasurable, including sexOvereating or appetite lossPersistent aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems that do not ease even with treatmentPersistent sad, anxious, or "empty" feelingsThoughts of suicide, suicide attempts Signs of depression that may not seem typical Frequently disciplined at school or workFrequently angry for no apparent reasonJust not a social personThis can all happen…

Anger Relapses and How to Deal

A lot of people think that just because you have been working very hard to manage your anger, you will never fly off the handle again. Many people go on to think that if you slip up, then you are a failure and your anger management skills are not working. It is unreasonable to think that you will never get angry again. Remember that it is healthy and expected for people to become angry. If you do have a slip that causes you to have some sort of angry outburst, it is best to look at it as a learning…

Things You Can Tell Yourself When Angry

When we are angry, it is very easy to get carried away and say all kinds of cruel and absurd things to ourselves (and others!). One of the most effective ways to decrease anger is to cut out those negative things we say to ourselves and change our point of view. Next time you get angry, give these a try Will it matter next week, next month, next year?What right do I have that is being violated?Visualize getting along, walking away—Instead of kicking the person’s arse!Look at the person/situation making you angry as a test to see if you…

Anger Can be Healthy

Think of anger as a ball of energy that can be helpful and harmful. It depends on how you use it. It takes little creativity to use anger to swear, become violent and really make a clown of one’s self. However, it takes a lot of creativity and control to direct one’s anger energy toward something productive. Some examples of productive uses of anger: Women’s right to voteCivil rightsSelf defenseMother’s Against Drunk Driving (MADD)Writing letters to the editorMotivation to finish that project you have not been working on forever What are some ways you can use your anger effectively?

Helping Someone Through Grief: 7 Tips

/ Guest Post / One of the most common concerns people have is knowing what to say or do when a loved one dies. When it happens, even within our own families, we often don’t know what to say or do. Others don’t know what to say to us. So often, the response is to say or do nothing. The avoidance comes not out of a lack of compassion but out of a fear of saying or doing the wrong thing. It’s an all-too-common dilemma that we face. Here are some counseling tips for supporting someone through this very confusing…

Therapy Can Change Your Life

We all have something in our life that we want to change. If someone says there is nothing to change, this should be a problem in and of itself. How do people create change in their lives? Altering thoughts, modifying behaviors, setting goals, and creating/maintaining relationships are all great catalysts. Therapy is a way to help facilitate these behaviors. My goal as a therapist is to help hold you accountable on the changes you wish to make. I do this by asking about your goals and how you are coming along. I also help with creating ideas that will add…

Post Holidays

Starting in 2005, a British Psychologist, Cliff Arnall, believed that he calculated the most depressing day of the year. He calls this Blue Monday and it occurs in mid to late January each year. http://www.nydailynews.com/news/blue-monday-saddest-day-year-find-silver-lining-article-1.1007082 Arnall calculates this date on weather conditions, debt level (the difference between debt accumulated and our ability to pay), time since Christmas, time since failing our new year’s resolutions, low motivational levels and feeling of a need to take action There is debate about the legitimacy of Blue Monday and it is more likely to have a 30 second spot on the morning news as…

Thank you Warren Buffett

I recently wrote this thank you letter to Warren Buffett. His great role modeling is what compelled me to write my first letter to a celebrity. He has some great talks on youtube. Buck Black LCSW, LCAC 100 Saw Mill Road, Suite 3102 Lafayette, Indiana 47905 www.BuckBlack.com 765-807-6778 Mr. Warren Buffett 3555 Farnam Street Suite 1440 Omaha, NE 68131 Dear Mr. Buffett, Thank you for being a teacher and an amazing role model for our society. I am a licensed therapist and Certified Financial Social Worker who helps couples with money problems, as well as anger, stress, and various relationship…

A Certified Financial Social Work Counselor’s (CFSW) Thoughts on Money

1. How do you define the term, “Living within your means?” First, you need to make sure you are spending less per month than you earn. Secondly, you need to insure that you are saving money for retirement and have at least a 6-month emergency fund. 2. What is the difference of “living within your means” and “living below your means”? I think of living below your means as saving a substantial amount of money... beyond the 6 month emergency fund, retirement, and any other basic savings necessities. 3. Can you provide at least five tips a person can use…