Humor to Heal: The Therapeutic Power of Laughter

In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, filled with challenges and uncertainties, finding moments of joy becomes essential for our mental health. One powerful tool that has been overlooked is humor. Humor as Coping: Humor serves as a potent coping mechanism in the face of adversity. Norman Cousins, a prominent American political journalist, demonstrated the healing power of laughter in his personal journey. In his acclaimed work, Cousins delves into how laughter acted as a catalyst in his recovery from a debilitating illness. His movie, "Anatomy of an Illness," available on YouTube, is a testament to the transformative…
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Navigating Seasonal Affective Disorder and Winter Stress

As the days grow shorter some of us find ourselves grappling with more than just the colder weather. Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) can cast a shadow on our well-being, impacting our mental health during the darker months. Recognizing the Signs SAD often sets in with the decrease of sunlight, even in sunnier regions. It can occur from October through April, coinciding with the start of the holiday season. Symptoms include a lack of energy, feelings of hopelessness, difficulty concentrating, heightened irritability, and challenges in achieving restful sleep. Combatting the Winter Blues: 1. Full Spectrum Lighting: Integrate full spectrum lighting into…
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Frequently Asked Questions for Counseling and Therapy

What is therapy all about? Therapy is about working though the problems you may be having. We all have problems and many of us need therapy to deal with them. There are many techniques that can easily be taught to help one cope with or even overcome depression, anxiety, anger, and sex and relationship therapy. I don't want to or am unable to come see a counselor, can you help me? Yes! Online therapy is very helpful for most people. Are you the same as a psychiatrist? No. I am a Therapist with a Social Work degree (MSW). I focus…
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Anger that Comes from Depression

People often have anger that stems from depression—especially men. Signs of depression Difficulty concentrating, remembering details, and making decisions Fatigue and decreased energy Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, and/or helplessness Feelings of hopelessness and/or pessimism Insomnia, early-morning wakefulness, or excessive sleeping Irritability, restlessness Loss of interest in activities or hobbies once pleasurable, including sex Overeating or appetite loss Persistent aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems that do not ease even with treatment Persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" feelings Thoughts of suicide, suicide attempts Signs of depression that may not seem typical Frequently disciplined at school or work Frequently angry…
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Anger Relapses and How to Deal

A lot of people think that just because you have been working very hard to manage your anger, you will never fly off the handle again.  Many people go on to think that if you slip up, then you are a failure and your anger management skills are not working.  It is unreasonable to think that you will never get angry again.  Remember that it is healthy and expected for people to become angry.  If you do have a slip that causes you to have some sort of angry outburst, it is best to look at it as a learning…
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Things You Can Tell Yourself When Angry

When we are angry, it is very easy to get carried away and say all kinds of cruel and absurd things to ourselves (and others!).  One of the most effective ways to decrease anger is to cut out those negative things we say to ourselves and change our point of view.     Next time you get angry, give these a try Will it matter next week, next month, next year? What right do I have that is being violated? Visualize getting along, walking away—Instead of kicking the person’s arse! Look at the person/situation making you angry as a test to…
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Anger Can be Healthy

Think of anger as a ball of energy that can be helpful and harmful.  It depends on how you use it.  It takes little creativity to use anger to swear, become violent and really make a clown of one’s self.  However, it takes a lot of creativity and control to direct one’s anger energy toward something productive. Some examples of productive uses of anger: Women’s right to voteCivil rightsSelf defenseMother’s Against Drunk Driving (MADD)Writing letters to the editorMotivation to finish that project you have not been working on forever What are some ways you can use your anger effectively?
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Helping Someone Through Grief: 7 Tips

/ Guest Post / One of the most common concerns people have is knowing what to say or do when a loved one dies. When it happens, even within our own families, we often don’t know what to say or do. Others don’t know what to say to us. So often, the response is to say or do nothing. The avoidance comes not out of a lack of compassion but out of a fear of saying or doing the wrong thing. It’s an all-too-common dilemma that we face. Here are some counseling tips for supporting someone through this very confusing…
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Therapy Can Change Your Life

We all have something in our life that we want to change. If someone says there is nothing to change, this should be a problem in and of itself. How do people create change in their lives? Altering thoughts, modifying behaviors, setting goals, and creating/maintaining relationships are all great catalysts. Therapy is a way to help facilitate these behaviors. My goal as a therapist is to help hold you accountable on the changes you wish to make. I do this by asking about your goals and how you are coming along. I also help with creating ideas that will add…
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Post Holidays

Starting in 2005, a British Psychologist, Cliff Arnall, believed that he calculated the most depressing day of the year. He calls this Blue Monday and it occurs in mid to late January each year.  http://www.nydailynews.com/news/blue-monday-saddest-day-year-find-silver-lining-article-1.1007082 Arnall calculates this date on weather conditions, debt level (the difference between debt accumulated and our ability to pay), time since Christmas, time since failing our new year’s resolutions, low motivational levels and feeling of a need to take action There is debate about the legitimacy of Blue Monday and it is more likely to have a 30 second spot on the morning news as…
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