Shedding the Emotional Weight We often move through our lives as if we are collectors. From the time we are young, we begin to accumulate things. We gather possessions, sure, but more importantly, we accumulate habits, beliefs, emotional responses, and coping mechanisms. Over time, these invisible items fill our mental backpacks. Some of them are useful tools that help us survive. But many of them are heavy, outdated, and burdensome. They are the grudges we hold against a family member the anxiety we feel about a job , or the limiting belief that we are not "enough" that started years…
The Variance Tax We have all been there. You look at your year in review, and objectively, it is a success. The portfolio is up, the practice is growing, or that major project finally landed. Yet, instead of celebrating the victory, you find yourself fixated on the Tuesdays that went nowhere. You obsess over the client who didn't sign, the marketing campaign that flopped, or the hours of research that yielded a dead end. You feel frustrated, and perhaps even angry, despite the evidence of your success. This happens not because you are ungrateful, but because you are judging your…
Have you ever found yourself wondering, "Why does this keep happening to me?" Maybe it’s time to ask yourself: why do I keep repeating the same mistakes? Maybe it’s the same kind of argument that keeps coming up in your relationship. Maybe it’s the same bad job that drains you. Maybe it’s a cycle of anxiety, anger, or avoidance that plays on repeat. Carl Jung once said, “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” That’s what this is. This is your brain on autopilot, following scripts you didn’t know were…
