Before I Was a Therapist: What I Wish Everyone Knew About Getting Support

Before I Was a Therapist: What I Wish Everyone Knew About Getting Support

Before I was a therapist, I was just a kid who worried a lot. I didn’t know it was anxiety—I just thought something was wrong with me because I couldn’t stop overthinking everything. I didn’t talk about it much. Most people didn’t. And if someone did go to therapy, it was usually whispered about like a scandal or a last resort. Looking back, I wish I had known that getting help doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you—it means you’re strong enough to want better. Therapy Isn't Magic—But It’s Incredibly Helpful A common misconception is that therapy instantly “fixes” people. The…
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The Importance of Sex Education and Therapy

The Importance of Sex Education and Therapy

Sex education is a critical yet often neglected aspect of personal and relational well-being. In my practice, I encounter numerous clients who lack fundamental knowledge about sexuality, leading to relationship challenges, high-risk behaviors, and low self-esteem. It's my belief that comprehensive sex education, coupled with sex therapy when needed, can empower individuals and couples to cultivate healthier and more fulfilling sexual lives. One of my primary goals as a sex therapist is to dispel harmful myths and misconceptions surrounding sexuality. Many individuals struggle with performance anxiety, shame, or guilt related to sex. For instance, men often internalize the idea that…
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Why We Need to Talk About Sex

Why We Need to Talk About Sex

Many people grow up receiving the message that sex is something to keep quiet about—or something to feel shame, embarrassment, or guilt around. Whether it’s from family, culture, religion, media, or past experiences, these messages can make it hard to talk openly about sex, even in therapy. The result? People often carry a lifetime of unanswered questions, unmet needs, and silent struggles when it comes to sexuality. In my practice, we do things differently. Sex is a natural, important, and deeply personal part of life. It’s connected to pleasure, identity, intimacy, communication, connection, and vulnerability. And yet, for many people,…
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 Is It Okay to Want Different Things in Bed?

 Is It Okay to Want Different Things in Bed?

Here’s What I say (an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist) The short answer? Yes. Wanting different things in bed is common—and natural. Couples often want different things in bed, and what matters most is how they navigate the differences. Why Desires Differ We all come to relationships with unique histories, preferences, and comfort levels. Culture, past experiences, body image, and stress can all influence what we want—or don’t want—sexually. When partners want different things in bed, these factors often play a role. It’s Not About “Right” or “Wrong” In sex therapy, there are no “correct” desires. Conflict arises not from the…
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Beyond “Broken”

Beyond “Broken”

Embracing Wholeness in TherapyOne essential aspect of therapy is the enhancement of self-esteem, which plays a crucial role in an individual's healing journey. Welcome.If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Am I broken?” you’re far from alone. This question—or the heavy feeling behind it—is something many people bring into individual therapy, couples counseling, and sex therapy. That deep, quiet fear of being fundamentally flawed can weigh you down and make it hard to move forward. But here's the truth: You are not broken. Building self-esteem is key. You are a full and complex person—navigating life, pain, relationships, and growth. Online therapy is…
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What to Expect in Your First Sex Therapy Session

What to Expect in Your First Sex Therapy Session

Welcome! Starting AASECT Certified sex therapy with an AASECT Certified Therapist can feel like a big step, and it’s completely normal to feel a bit nervous. Whether you’re coming in as an individual or as part of a couple, knowing what to expect from an AASECT Certified Therapist can help ease some of that anxiety and help you feel more prepared. A Safe and Judgment-Free Space My role as an AASECT Certified Therapist is to create a welcoming, shame-free environment. Sex therapy isn’t about being judged or diagnosed—it’s about having a space to talk openly, explore concerns, improve communication, and…
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Is Couples Therapy Right for Us? Building a Stronger Connection Together

Is Couples Therapy Right for Us? Building a Stronger Connection Together

Deciding to begin couples therapy is a significant and courageous choice. If you're asking yourself, "Is couples therapy right for us?"—whether you're navigating long-standing issues, feeling disconnected, or simply hoping to deepen your connection—working with a therapist can offer a supportive space to rebuild, grow, and move forward together. Couples therapy provides a supportive space to explore your relationship dynamic, communicate more effectively, and work collaboratively toward your shared goals. But it’s important to find an approach that resonates with both of you. This post outlines my philosophy and how I work with couples, so you can see if it…
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The Importance of Sex Education and Therapy

The Importance of Sex Education and Therapy

Sex education is a critical yet often neglected aspect of personal and relational well-being. In my practice, I encounter numerous clients who lack fundamental knowledge about sexuality, leading to relationship challenges, high-risk behaviors, and low self-esteem. It's my belief that comprehensive sex education, coupled with sex therapy when needed, can empower individuals and couples to cultivate healthier and more fulfilling sexual lives. One of my primary goals as a sex therapist is to dispel harmful myths and misconceptions surrounding sexuality. Many individuals struggle with performance anxiety, shame, or guilt related to sex. For instance, men often internalize the idea that…
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Breaking the Stigma-Why Sex Therapy is for Everyone

Breaking the Stigma-Why Sex Therapy is for Everyone

Sex is a natural and important part of life, but it's often shrouded in shame and secrecy. Many people struggle with sexual concerns, but they hesitate to seek help due to stigma and misconceptions about sex therapy. In reality, sex therapy is a valuable resource for individuals and couples of all ages, backgrounds, and sexual orientations. It provides a safe and supportive space to explore sexual concerns, improve communication, and enhance sexual health and well-being. Common Reasons People Seek Sex Therapy People seek sex therapy for a wide range of reasons, including: Sexual Dysfunction: Addressing issues like low libido, erectile…
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Drugs and Sex- A Complicated Relationship

Drugs and Sex- A Complicated Relationship

We're bombarded with messages suggesting that drugs equal better sex. From TV shows to popular culture, this idea is pervasive. But is it true? As a therapist specializing in relationships and intimacy, I've seen firsthand how this philosophy often falls short. While drugs can sometimes seem to enhance sexual experiences, the reality is far more complex, and often, the drawbacks outweigh any perceived benefits. In my practice, I frequently work with individuals and couples struggling with various sexual issues, from lack of desire and impotence to simply feeling like their sex life has become dull. Many have turned to prescription…
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